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Friends

Friends Don’t Need to Forgive Each Other, Do They?

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We only need forgiveness if we break a relational law. As in knowing how we ought to treat others, and then not doing it. Now, what about relationships not governed by laws? Like friendships. Are they excluded from all the business of forgiveness?
To approach an answer to this question, let us look at the kind [...]

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Does Technology Change Our Friendships?

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Yesterday, I received a nice e-mail from a reader who used these two terms: “Google miracles” and “Google as an Omniscient Search Engine.” Reading this in light of an poll I saw yesterday made me think.
The poll concluded that online communication does not give us good friendships. It may help us sustain friendships we already [...]

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What Does It Mean to Be friends?

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People have different positions on this question.
Some say it is about sharing a history where you have “gone through thick and thin,” and survived it.
Some say being friends is about that certain feeling many call “soul mates.” They say the feeling often shows up the first day you meet.
Some describe their friends as those who [...]

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Why Should I Believe in Being “Best Friends”?

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I don’t believe in being best friends.
Maybe I don’t because I have no desire to be a best friend myself. It puts me in a position where I feel obliged to be a better person than I am in fact able to be. It puts pressure on me to … not mess up! Then I [...]

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What Do You Mean: We are “Just Friends”?

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I have never been able to understand this term, “just friends.” What exactly are we thinking when we talk about friendship as something less than some other kind of relationship?
In my mind, there is nothing more satisfying than the company of a really good friend. I know because everything that I am responds to the [...]

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How Do You Know You Have Become Friends with Someone?

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This is a difficult question.
No two friendships are the same. Whatever it is about one friendship, and whatever it is that I share with one friend, that is not what makes me friends with someone else.
Isn’t that strange, though? We have one good friend and then we measure other relationships against what we have with [...]

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